What's in a W-E-D-D-I-N-G?

Wedding is my favorite topic.  When this is being brought up its as if my brain cells are into fast forward motion and sends a signal to my mouth to talk as fast as it could.  I love to talk about weddings, I am energized and I can talk about it all day long.











Wedding is:

1. A fairy tale -- it is "Happy Ever After"
2. Every woman's dream -- to walk down the aisle and say "I Do" to their Prince Charming.  
3. Every man's fulfillment -- to give the woman they love their dream wedding and their surname :)

In short, wedding is a special occasion for two persons, their union as they both share their dreams and love for one another.  They are united in marriage.

When I hear that someone is getting married, I feel excited for them because it's in those times that I again remember my own wedding.  The things that we have gone through, the excitement and the kilig moments, they are inevitable for me.

Wedding is a very sweet occasion, however, we also need to prepare ourselves for the unexpected.  With my own thoughts and realizations I have came up with my own scary moments to look forward / expect during weddings.

  
Witch - As you go along with your wedding, there will be a lot of guidance going on. A lot of friends and relatives helping out (of course they are all excited about the big day) but one must be wary.  A witch is someone whom you think is helping you but might work the other way around.  Say for example: someone might say that this "Venue" is nice with all the perks and stuff but you have already decided your own venue, in the end you might be picking the idea of others without proper thought and discussion with your partner.

POINT AT HAND - Decide what you and your partner have came up with.  Suggestions are good, but if this is something that will ruin your budget or pre-arranged plans then stop listening to this person.

Envy - Being envious is a normal thing to any human being.  However, in this kind of situation, being envious can be a good thing in such a way that you can be creative (like copying an expensive gown and letting your own inexpensive couturier do the thing ), but being envious to the point that you also want to have a five star hotel wedding but your budget does not allow you to is beyond the line.


POINT IN HAND - Do things in accordance to your specified budget.  There are a lot of wedding budgeting tools around there and from my own experience, reception is biggest cut of your budget pie.  Thus, think about your guest list, again and again and again. Hint: Ask yourself: What is their significance to both of you? as you go along with your relationship as bf-gf?


Danger Zone - This is like a manhole in the middle of the road.  Do not let you and your partner fall into this trap.  More often than not we want to please everybody but this should not happen.  

POINT AT HAND: This is your day, this occasion should be all about you and your partner.  Not about how many guests you have invited, not about the fancy cake that you cut and not about how expensive your souvenirs were.


Doomsday - In a horror movie, this is like your worst nightmare! Remember that nothing is perfect in this world and that unexpected things will happen whether we like or not.  Thus, you need back up and the best back up that one can ever have is to remember that you are doing this wedding to exchange vows in front of HIM and receive HIS Blessing and not about the flowers that didn't arrive or the music that didn't play for your reception dance.

POINT AT HAND: It is the Wedding Eucharist that is the most important aspect of your wedding day. 


Intrigue - This is one hell unavoidable situation.  A very real life scenario is if you decide to stick to your budget and cut your guest list, you will hear a lot of "you don't wanna hear things" but hey, let me remind you again that this is your wedding.  Another classic example is hearing your relatives forming the entourage for you when you have your list already.  Yes, we do not want to hurt feelings, but we just need to remind them that again, this is your wedding and you and your partner have already decided on the entourage.

POINT AT HAND: Whatever other people say, it should not matter because this is your ball game. 

Nagging - This will definitely happen to the couple themselves.  Planning a wedding is not like planning a BBQ party, it is a whole lot more. There are a lot of factors to consider and thus discussions (a lot) will happen hear and there.   

POINT AT HAND: Nagging will be there and this will just test your patience with one another.  If you cannot stand this nagging during your wedding preparations then maybe you should think again before plunging into marriage. 

Goose bumps - We generally feel this if we are scared. It will always be your first time to get married and thus this is a very normal feeling (unless you Wed a couple of times then that should be an exception). This might distract you to lose focus in what you are doing and planning; so the best thing to do is to accept the feeling and do something about it.

POINT AT HAND: Normal to be scared, it's not normal to linger with it.


I am not trying to scare the soon to be married but I just would like to emphasize that these things do happen and being prepared is the best weapon a couple can have.


After all is set, your Wedding will definitely run smoothly.  It may not run the way it was perfectly planned but both of you will have the marriage that you all wanted.  Basically that's what is important!