Cotton buds

What the hell are you talking about?   I have always talked about love and relationships, on how my husband and I started out as friends and now as a married couple.  It may be cliché but not everything happens over night, it will always take time and relationships (strong ones) are made from a lot of drilling and not just happy moments.  Like you can feel Heaven in your Marriage but we should also remember that Thunder and Lightning are also from heaven!

When you have been with a person that is a part of who you are, in my case my husband; it’s a nice feeling when you know that you can almost talk about anything under the sun and moon.  Joy, Sorrow, Happiness, Love, Fear or even Pain and anything that will make your relationship grow is something that a couple (married or not) should not take for granted. 

For me, asking my husband how he was for the day is just a simple thing but it will kick-start the conversation.  Constant communication is important and thus when at home, I make it a point to set a time for our casual discussions.  I make it a point to find something interesting, I don’t want to be monotonous; being monotonous is like a candle melting to the ground; monotonous for me is the ritual questions like “How are you?”, “How was your day?”, “What did you had for lunch?”... As an interested individual we should not settle to just these types of questions, we should ask more, more and even more.  Find out what made the day bright, what at work interest him a lot, what about cars that he liked.  Eventually through time, as you build your relationship with your partner you will know the right and interesting questions to ask.  This is one great way to build your relationship.

Discussions need not always be serious.  If you are very comfortable and interested with your partner, you can talk about anything as simple as a rainbow or the rain and still end up laughing at each other.  Learning from each other’s experiences and thought processes. These conversations are the most stress free ones and helps build relationship little by little.  However, to be honest, this feeling does not last long.  More often than not, this happens only at the START of the relationship which is a trap that we all should avoid falling into.

As you go along with your relationship, there will be times that you will get used to what you talk about, and then you will not even notice that you are driving away from your partner.  Your attention now is with your gadgets, tv, vices, friends or basically other things.  Therefore, an advice to myself is:

“Always find something exciting!” 

            “There is always something new!”