How to Find the perfect one for you!

I never thought that in the most unexpected time and place I will meet the man that I will spend the rest of my life with.  In truth, even before I was in Highschool, I never had any dream guy or the perfect guy that I want to be with.  I do not want to draw this Prince Charming in my head and eventually end up with a frog! 

In reality, we all want something; but for me wanting something is just an added excitement in finding the right one.  It will be your baseline.

If you deeply search for your one and only true love as if you make sure that each tiny criteria that you have is met; you are helping yourself become blind of the things unseen. You are being unfair and subjective. Give yourself the opportunity to learn more about someone.  If you learn something from a person it might interest you and that will eventually lead into a deeper relationship. I believe that everything starts from there. 

There is this saying that "Love isn't finding the perfect person, it's seeing an imperfect person perfectly".  In all essence, this does make sense! 

Happy Friday: Who is protecting you?

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We are human beings and we are all vulnerable.  We need something to protect us from the cold or hot weather.  We always need to protect ourselves.

As we all know, it does not just rest with physical protection. It is always important for us to think about our well being, our feelings and emotional need.

I feel very blessed with the protection that I am receiving.  First I am very blessed to have my family with me, lucky to have two families now because I am already happily married and enjoying it! No one will ever receive the same kind of love and protection from our families.  When all else fails, our families are and will always be there to the rescue and I believe that it is JUST that we reciprocate the same love to them.


Protection from our friends are also one important thing that we should also appreciate.  You can have many friends but only few will be there to protect you.  I have tried this test already and can proudly say that I know who from my friends can protect me and who from my friends I will protect till the end.  

Happy to feel blessed and lucky for the things and people who are protecting me.  Protecting my being.  I will always be thankful and will always appreciate the things and people around me.

True with the saying: What goes around, comes around!  If you plant seeds of joy, love and happiness, you will sow 10x more!

What's in a W-E-D-D-I-N-G?

Wedding is my favorite topic.  When this is being brought up its as if my brain cells are into fast forward motion and sends a signal to my mouth to talk as fast as it could.  I love to talk about weddings, I am energized and I can talk about it all day long.











Wedding is:

1. A fairy tale -- it is "Happy Ever After"
2. Every woman's dream -- to walk down the aisle and say "I Do" to their Prince Charming.  
3. Every man's fulfillment -- to give the woman they love their dream wedding and their surname :)

In short, wedding is a special occasion for two persons, their union as they both share their dreams and love for one another.  They are united in marriage.

When I hear that someone is getting married, I feel excited for them because it's in those times that I again remember my own wedding.  The things that we have gone through, the excitement and the kilig moments, they are inevitable for me.

Wedding is a very sweet occasion, however, we also need to prepare ourselves for the unexpected.  With my own thoughts and realizations I have came up with my own scary moments to look forward / expect during weddings.

  
Witch - As you go along with your wedding, there will be a lot of guidance going on. A lot of friends and relatives helping out (of course they are all excited about the big day) but one must be wary.  A witch is someone whom you think is helping you but might work the other way around.  Say for example: someone might say that this "Venue" is nice with all the perks and stuff but you have already decided your own venue, in the end you might be picking the idea of others without proper thought and discussion with your partner.

POINT AT HAND - Decide what you and your partner have came up with.  Suggestions are good, but if this is something that will ruin your budget or pre-arranged plans then stop listening to this person.

Envy - Being envious is a normal thing to any human being.  However, in this kind of situation, being envious can be a good thing in such a way that you can be creative (like copying an expensive gown and letting your own inexpensive couturier do the thing ), but being envious to the point that you also want to have a five star hotel wedding but your budget does not allow you to is beyond the line.


POINT IN HAND - Do things in accordance to your specified budget.  There are a lot of wedding budgeting tools around there and from my own experience, reception is biggest cut of your budget pie.  Thus, think about your guest list, again and again and again. Hint: Ask yourself: What is their significance to both of you? as you go along with your relationship as bf-gf?


Danger Zone - This is like a manhole in the middle of the road.  Do not let you and your partner fall into this trap.  More often than not we want to please everybody but this should not happen.  

POINT AT HAND: This is your day, this occasion should be all about you and your partner.  Not about how many guests you have invited, not about the fancy cake that you cut and not about how expensive your souvenirs were.


Doomsday - In a horror movie, this is like your worst nightmare! Remember that nothing is perfect in this world and that unexpected things will happen whether we like or not.  Thus, you need back up and the best back up that one can ever have is to remember that you are doing this wedding to exchange vows in front of HIM and receive HIS Blessing and not about the flowers that didn't arrive or the music that didn't play for your reception dance.

POINT AT HAND: It is the Wedding Eucharist that is the most important aspect of your wedding day. 


Intrigue - This is one hell unavoidable situation.  A very real life scenario is if you decide to stick to your budget and cut your guest list, you will hear a lot of "you don't wanna hear things" but hey, let me remind you again that this is your wedding.  Another classic example is hearing your relatives forming the entourage for you when you have your list already.  Yes, we do not want to hurt feelings, but we just need to remind them that again, this is your wedding and you and your partner have already decided on the entourage.

POINT AT HAND: Whatever other people say, it should not matter because this is your ball game. 

Nagging - This will definitely happen to the couple themselves.  Planning a wedding is not like planning a BBQ party, it is a whole lot more. There are a lot of factors to consider and thus discussions (a lot) will happen hear and there.   

POINT AT HAND: Nagging will be there and this will just test your patience with one another.  If you cannot stand this nagging during your wedding preparations then maybe you should think again before plunging into marriage. 

Goose bumps - We generally feel this if we are scared. It will always be your first time to get married and thus this is a very normal feeling (unless you Wed a couple of times then that should be an exception). This might distract you to lose focus in what you are doing and planning; so the best thing to do is to accept the feeling and do something about it.

POINT AT HAND: Normal to be scared, it's not normal to linger with it.


I am not trying to scare the soon to be married but I just would like to emphasize that these things do happen and being prepared is the best weapon a couple can have.


After all is set, your Wedding will definitely run smoothly.  It may not run the way it was perfectly planned but both of you will have the marriage that you all wanted.  Basically that's what is important!

When it Rains; It Pours!

When it rains; it pours! A metaphor that means; when something came up, a number of things will also come up.  

Now, whether it's a positive or negative thing it is up to the person saying this metaphor.

In any case and opportunity it is how we see "Rain" that we can make it beneficial for us.

For me, if it is something that frustrates me, I take it as a source of my motivation to move forward.  I take it as a black stone that I can step into in order for me to reach the golden stone.

Sometime it's how you make the "not so good situations" to your advantage and how you handle yourself.  

Good thing that I have my husband to always remind me of the things that I need to see, i need to appreciate and realize.  It's a good to have someone who is not in your situation and can see beyond the things that you are blinded of.


If the metaphor is the other way around, meaning the positive one.  This is when I take this one as blessings from HIM and something that I should be thankful for.  These things can happen maybe because of luck but most of the time I believe that they are a result of hard work, perseverance and faith.

To end, whether our "Rain" is a positive or a negative one, it does not rest on us getting wet.  It is how we dance with the rain!

My Bubble Theory

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"Bubble lifetime is a VERY complicated phenomenon.  It depends on the size of the bubble, the bubble formulation, the relative humidity (and so indirectly upon the temperature), the viscosity of the bubble film, air convection near the bubble surface and many more..(Newton Dep)

When I was a child, I was so amazed about how bubbles work. I used to create my bubbles from Gumamela Flowers and it was quite fun to do.  It's relaxing to see bubbles fly and pop them up one by one! At that time what I care about is just how bubbles fly and pop out.

It's a bit different now. Blowing and popping bubbles does not matter most to me; I now compare it to my life.

See, a bubble's lifetime depends on so many factors but regardless of the factors surrounding the bubble, it will eventually pop.  Very similar to how I view my life.  I know that every single moment that is happening has something to do with these three factors; 
(1) Me 
(2) Environment and 
(3) People around me.


Then for me every situation is a result of something.
Now I see them as an opportunity for me to learn, love and live with; because these things can considered as "once in a lifetime experiences".


I agree with the statement that;
"we need to live each day as if it will be our last".


Like the bubble, you will never know when it will pop and thus once it's still in it's beautiful form, we should learn to appreciate them!

What do you see outside

I always tell myself that there is no easy work. You have to experience all the hardships and challenges to say that you are able to cope up with work and then eventually love it.  As we go along, there will be times that we will feel that it's as if everything becomes monotonous, work just becomes so boring that we drag ourselves everyday to work -- but wait!!!

Just today, I had one wake up call from my boss.

He said "If you want a brand new and fresh environment then we have to make our place new and fresh!"

What does he mean by this statement.  For me, leaving for another work place is not always the answer to make our work life exciting.  Sometimes or I'd rather say most of the time it is how we approach our work that makes it exciting.

It is not just about the work that we do, the boss that we have, the requirements we were asked but it is how we see things.  We should always see things in a positive manner.  That everything is a learning process and that it will all make sense if we focus ourselves to our goals.

It will always boil down to our behavior, attitude and personality on how we view our work in our lives.

DISCLAIMER: Although, there will be times that we need to sea the other side of the fence.  This will always be depending on the situation that we have.

Another side of the Sun

I used to say that Life is like Sunrise, you know that there is always something new to look forward to.  Everyday is a brand new day, brand new story and brand new learning to live with but I just realized that there is something about the sun that makes it even more special for me.

"Right now I feel that I am at the tip of an Iceberg and that a single miss in my step, a single uneven breathe will leave me drawn into the freezing water.  I can feel my heart pumping at it's peak."

Pufff!! A dream it was, a bad one for that matter!

Dreams are part of who we are, but it is just a part of our unconscious self showing us the things that we are afraid to do and accept.  This is the reality but is something that can make us move on.  There is always something to look forward to than be drawn into our dark selves.


Like sunrise, there is always a brand new day and in LIFE it should always be our way of thinking. Whatever happened in the past is something that we all should learn from.  Whatever will happen now is something that will be part of our future and who we are as persons.


But, how do we think about NOW?  How do we take each moment as precious as the sun?  

One afternoon, while in our room, I was watching the sun set and was so amazed about its beauty!  I just stepped out of our room to get something and boom, it was gone. So fast!

Another aspect of life that I can compare with the sun is SUNSET. In silence I have realized that as we go along our lives sometimes we tend to focus more on what will happen tomorrow. We have this positive outlook in life that we are always forward looking(which I definitely agree!), but as we think about tomorrow we forget to cherish each second of our lives TODAY.  

Cherish the time that we are with our family and friends, cherish the time to be happy, to laugh, to cry and to live.

It was then that again I realized that if we want to make the most of our lives, we need to  enjoy every single second of it, savor each experience as if it will not happen again.  We should not let is just pass by us and for me that's how to enjoy the LIFE that we have now.